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Subway Singer Covers Adele....by pemora

There aren't many things I miss about NYC subway life. Actually, between my claustrophobia + germaphobia, I don't miss it very much. Except for 1 thing -- I do miss the various underground performances. From the Michael Jackson impersonator to the group of young breakdancers (although they never really danced, did they? They would always drop a hot song + just rile each other about how they were going to rip it), I was constantly entertained. Check out this video to see an amazing subway performance. 

I hate children's music, but are my kids ready for Hip Hop?...by dough

Children's music is universally atrocious.   It is trite and tedious. An endless sea of monotony that crushes ones humanity with unrelenting waves of banal tedium.  At first it laps gently at the shores of your sanity. It is a barely felt current, swathing your new baby in passivity and lulling him to sleep.  Slowly it seeps into diaper changes and car rides, please touch museums and toy stores.  It's suddenly everywhere and you are caught in the swell of its undertow.  You gasp for Nas, Mos Def, Kanye, but it's too late, your lungs are already saturated with Three Blind Mice, Itsy Bitsy Spider and something called "Raffi". Children's music is devious.  It's born of platitudes and gentle hell fire.  It's boring and insidious.  It is the incarnate soul of the devil.

Perhaps I've tipped my toe into hyperbole but while some hazards of parenthood are often discussed: the lack of sleep, the constant worrying, the lack of free time - no one ever talks about the terrible and omnipresent music. Car rides, play time, diaper changes, bath time, museums, stores - all come with the regular and insistent jack hammering of fairy tales and nursery rhymes and dead eyed automatons soullessly numbing your humanity and sapping your will to fight back. But not entirely.

Any music lover thusly assaulted, will, after some time, come to rebel against this aural malaise and ultimately arrive at the same cure:  Either find children's music by artists you can tolerate (in my case nearly impossible) or introduce your children to the music you love.  I wanted my kids to know Hip Hop (and all the music I love) but, for me, there were two key drivers.  On the one hand, Hip Hop is such a looming and significant part of my life that it is important to me to introduce my kids to the culture and the music that I immerse myself in daily (or at least I used to).  On the other hand, I can't listen to "Wheels on the bus" another damn time.  So I made up my mind, but that's where the trouble started.

My first thought was: "Just turn on the radio, dummy! The radio has good music and it's censored. It's a win-win". Actually, it's a lose-lose as I was wrong on both accounts.  Here are the top five most played songs on Hot 97 (the local Hip-Hop & R&B station) for the week of December 27th 2011:

1.     Dance (Ass) - Big Sean featuring Nicki Minaj

o    This track must have the record for the most times "Ass" is said in a single song.  

2.     Ni**as in Paris - Jay-Z & Kanye West

o    This song is awesome but it seems like they're actively trying to do the worst censoring job they can.

3.     She Will - Lil Wayne featuring Drake

o    There is nothing redeeming about this song.

4.     Work Out - J. Cole

o    Same old "shake that ass girl" garbage that reminded me why I don't listen to the radio any more.

5.     Make me proud  - Drake featuring Nicki Minaj

o    This passes for positive. *sigh*

One good song in the top 5?  And none I want my kids to hear?  Radio is not the move.  For the record, the Pop and Rock stations are just as unacceptable.  That said, I don't want to begrudge any adult from listening to whatever they want.  Even on the radio.  I don't even care if they play uncensored screaming on the radio.  Just have a way to warn me and let me shield my kids from it.  And you can make judgments about what's appropriate for your kids. That said, I still want to listen to *my* songs and while I want to expose my kids to the music that I love, I'm wary of them getting over-exposed.  So it occurred to me that maybe I should think through exactly what my criteria are for songs I want my kids to hear.  I came up with what I thought were two reasonable rules:

1.     No words I didn't want to hear repeated at Grandma's house

2.     No phrases or concepts I didn't want to explain

At first blush these seem reasonable and should leave me with a huge selection.  I think of myself as a *real* Hip Hop fan.  I love the golden age, backpack, underground, modern classics etc.  I hate "Bitches & Bling", "Da Club" and all the crap that goes with that (with some exceptions).  Surely it should be easy to find some tracks that meet my criteria.  In truth, it's possible but it requires some serious leg work.  Here are some classics I thought would obviously work until I re-listened to them with an ear to the above rules.  Note that my kids are 2.5 and 6 months so my criteria might ease up in a few years:

• Don't Curse - Various Artists
• How could this possibly offend? Kool G Rap: "Even made a record on how I'm doing on my B-I-T-C-H-es"
• I can - Nas
• Great message but lots of drug and other references
• Definition - Black Star
• "Mos Def & Kweli just, make a pussy freeze up, thinking of it, ease up"
• They Reminisce Over You - Pete Rock & C.L. Smooth
• "We laughed all night about the hookers at the party"
• Me, Myself & I - De La Soul
• Cool message until problems are resolved with violence: "I'll calmly punch them in the 4th day of July"
• Jesus Walks - Kanye West
• Hell no
• My Philosophy - Boogie Down Productions
• Great until: "How many MCs must get dissed, before somebody says 'Don't fuck with Kris'"
• Woo-Ha!! I got you all in check - Busta Rhymes
• The chorus is: "I got that head nod shit to make you break your neck"
• Cha Cha Cha - MC Lyte
• "Well Well Well, I'll be damned"
• It Takes Two - Rob Base & DJ Easy Rock
• "I like the whopper, fuck the big mac"
• Public Enemy #1 - Public Enemy
• "I'll show you my gun; my Uzi weighs a ton"
• Case of the P.T.A. - Leaders of the New School
• "What the Hell's going on"

Even a song called "Don't Curse" fails the criteria? Wow.  In all honesty though, some of these are not really that bad.  The censoring in "It Takes Two" is pretty blatant but I don't think that's really a deal breaker and "Case of the P.T.A." and "Cha Cha Cha" are even more of a stretch.  That kind of stuff I think I can probably let slide.  What hurts more is songs like "I Can" which I think have a good message but too much other content that I'm not ready for my kids to start grappling with. 

I think what it comes down to is that I was hoping for an easy solution.  Unfortunately, like everything else with kids,  I needed to step up and be a parent first.  It's not easy to vet a ton of songs from my library but if I want to listen to them with my kids then it's something I've got to do.  Of course, once I put in that initial work it's not so bad.  I ended up making a playlist of songs that I thought were appropriate.  It started out small (mostly instrumentals) and when I found time I added a song here and a song there.  At this point it's well over 2000 songs of both children's music and songs I like.  It fits on my phone, so I can bring the list on car rides or play it during dinner time and I don't have to worry about what might come up next or hearing the same awful tune over and over.  Much like the children it's intended for, the process was a huge pain in the ass but ultimately I think it's worth it.