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Showing posts with label MissDTM. Show all posts
Showing posts with label MissDTM. Show all posts

2.14.2014

Night Time Routine......by missDTM

let's talk about hair for a second:

i remember that one time i went to my dominican spot and watched the woman who did nails take the parts of my hair that they cut off and pretend like it was her chocha hair. no joke. it was embarrassing.

growing up in the 80's and 90's, curly was too taboo and the standard of beauty was (and still tends to be) straight hair. i admit it - i straightened my curly hair, i did the relaxers and used the flat iron to "tame" it. i wanted to get rid of every curl. 

stupid teenage DTM.

the beautiful thing about growing up is the ability to not listen to the haters. i've been wearing my hair curly since college and haven't put a relaxer in my hair in over 7 years (it might be more than that but i just can't remember). i'm always looking for representation of other curly haired beauties and so when a friend of mine, Coily and Cute, started doing these illustrations, i instantly fell.in.love. and now she's published a children's book?!? i'm about to buy this for all of my pregnant friends.





Get your copy of Night Time Routine at Amazon.

10.12.2012

brilliant....by missDTM

brilliant


in one of my classes this week, we were asked to write about our favorite k-12th grade teacher. 

my mind went blank, before briefly thinking about a college professor that i really loved. i then remembered that the TA asked us to write about a teacher during our k-12th grade years. so i thought about my public school teachers but i couldn't really think about the specifics she was asking us to describe so that seemed like a bust. middle school was ok, but my feeling of being unsuccessful in school doesn't bring up warm and friendly memories of teachers. i was all over the place in high school...but then it hit me.
 
 
To read more, go to missDTM's blog here

9.13.2012

My Style....by missDTM

The recent release of the book I Want To Be Her! has me thinking about who has influenced my style. I reached out to one of the most stylish people I know, missDTM, to see who influences her daily style. ~pemora
 
The girl I wanna be? Well, when it comes to fashion, it’s always a mix of tomboy/girlie/hippie style. No joke. I love looking like my outfit was “just thrown together” like those fashionistas you see in those blogs. So when people say, “you look so cute today!” I love responding, “oh! This? Just threw it together this AM.” Which may, or may not, be true.

My BIGGEST influences?

1. Iris Apfel leads the charge. Any older woman who can wear as many patterns as she does and matches it with large jewelry is the person I want to be now and when I get older. I love how fun and fearless her outfits are, how confidently she wears them, and how she has never ever doubted her style.


2. I seriously love the style of MK+A as well. They, as a unit, are that perfect blend of hot mess and girlie. Sometimes MK looks like a gypsy while A looks like an angel. Other times they both channel tomboy differently but perfectly. I mainly love MK’s hippie/dirty style though. I wish to be the latina-MK (but not the druggy/anorexic looking kind).


3. boy style. I love seeing men in sweaters and layers. I love when they layer on jewelry. I just love boy style. I think if I could, I would wear long varsity sweaters with all of my dresses. And tees with my skirts.


4. all of these curly haired girls:


Who influences your style?

5.24.2012

What Would You Do?.....by missDTM


recently a friend said something that was on some...well, hipster racism shit...and it didn't sit very well with me at all. it felt like a moment straight out of "what would you do" - it makes you go, "ummmm?" while simultaneously thinking, WTF! it left a bitter, sour, nasty taste in my mouth.

you see - not only did he reference how he, as a white man, can wear a hoodie safely and how someone we both know cannot, he actually said it twice. and he laughed because, you know, it was all part of a joke. haha?

in the moment i didn't say anything because we were in a very social environment and, to be honest, i didn't want to come off as the angry friend. he does tend to say some pretty insensitive/controversial things at times and i often feel like i definitely have to pick my battles when i'm around him. i already know what arguments he would use to defend his ability to make comments like this (i don't even want to get into what they are since they're pretty typical for people who make these comments) but as i ignored what he said i was simultaneously thinking, "oh no he didn't!" 

besides this joke being way too soon, i'm not sure that this "joke" will ever be acceptable to me from anyone. it's a fact of life for too many young people for it to be funny and a constant reminder of white privilege that he, and a lot of people, don't seem to recognize. yes, my friend's life is so much easier because he don't have to worry about whatever he's wearing and how others will perceive him. but there are a lot of people in the city of ny and all over the USA that do. and just because my friend is "aware of the injustice of it all" doesn't mean that it's appropriate make a jokes at the expense of people who are seriously affected by this. 

it bothered me to my core because if i have a son i will constantly worry about him wearing clothing that will mark him as a target. i worry now about my bf being targeted by people (he's unaware of that but i guess now he knows). so it will take more than just being "aware" of the injustice of it all for anything to actually change.

so, i ask....WHAT WOULD YOU DO?